Have you taken a look at the state of the world? Everything is up in the air. Nobody knows what tomorrow is going to bring and panic is beginning to set in, especially when it comes to wondering if you're even going to have a job the next day. That's why people are turning to the Internet for an income. Well, if you're one of those people who are thinking of trying your hand at earning an income with an online business, this article will give you some common sense advice for getting started.
The first thing you need to do is decide exactly what it is you want to do. There are many ways to make a living online. You can create your own products and sell them, you can sell other people's products as an affiliate marketer, you can sell items on Ebay or you can freelance. Freelancing is when you have a skill, such as copywriting or programming and rent out those skills to people who need them. Copywriters can make $15,000 for one sales letter, so freelancing can be quite lucrative.
After you've decided what it is you want to do, the next step is putting together all the pieces of the puzzle. That involves taking a look at the business model that you've decided on and get all the items that you're going to need FOR that business model. For example, let's say you decide that you want to use your programming skills to create custom scripts for people. Well, you're going to need to go out and purchase the developer tools depending on what scripting language you're going to work in. Every business model is going to require different items.
Finally, you need to make a budget and income projection for yourself. You can't know where you're going unless you actually plan it out in advance. Don't think that things will just happen. They won't. So, you need to decide how much you're going to spend each month and how much you plan to earn each month. This will give you some idea of your progress as you go along.
Naturally, there is more to it than this, but these are the basics. Start here and you'll be on your way to creating a business that you can be proud of.
To YOUR Success,
Steven Wagenheim
Tuesday, September 23, 2008
step to starting an internet bussiness
If you are new to the internet business community you will need to follow some important steps to starting an internet business. It is crucial that you set up right from the get go and make sure everything is organized and working like it suppose to be, so you can concentrate on promoting your products or services and making a lot of money.
Here are 5 simple steps to starting an Internet business:
Steps to Starting an Internet Business #1. The first thing you should do is choose a niche where you have some expertise in and have a passion for and where people are spending lots of money. By following the steps above your chances of success are greatly improved. The one thing you have to consider when choosing your niche is finding products that people need and want when they need to solve a problem. If you can do that success is just around the corner.
Steps to Starting an Internet Business #2: When first starting you probably will not have your own product to sell but that OK because you can join a few affiliate programs and promote their products and make a commission on every sale. But if you do have some products of your own then of course you would promote those.You can find affiliate programs opportunities all over the internet if you do not have your own products.
Steps to starting an Internet Business #3: Gaining insight from your competitors. If you haven't already noticed, (and this step applies if you want to go into a competitive niche market) most marketers who are profiting will have something already going well for them. You only need to observe what they are doing to earn well in that market and do a tad better than what they are doing. Its simple but this is not an overnight thing. You will need to improve overtime and measure your results.
Steps to starting an Internet Business #4: Build Your First Website We all have to start somewhere, right? The very first steps to starting an Internet business would be to build your own website. If you have problems in this area you can always hire someone to build it for you. Next you will you will learn how to create blogs, articles, press release, videos and all that cool stuff. You must have the willingness of continually learning new way of marketing and applying it to your own business. This is something you must do on a consistent basis.
Steps to starting an Internet Business #5: Also I suggest you join an auto responder company and add a form to your blog so you can build a mailing list and use this list for future follow ups which will allow you to keep in contact with your list of people and position yourself to be able to sell to them again and again.
PS: The nice thing about these five steps to starting an internet business is that they are not hard to do once you start learning how it works and anyone can do this if they really want to succeed.
Hi I've been an internet marketer for the last 3 years and doing very well in the last 6 months and I would have to say it is because of Lisa Diane one of the most respected internet marketers and my mentor. When I first met Lisa she told me I needed to listen to a special CD that would help me with my business and life in general. Lisa has dedicated her life to help people like you and me and since listening to that CD my life and business have completely changed around. Lisa and I are now giving away that same CD to try and help as many people as possible and to give you an opportunity you will not believe.
by Marc Martin
Here are 5 simple steps to starting an Internet business:
Steps to Starting an Internet Business #1. The first thing you should do is choose a niche where you have some expertise in and have a passion for and where people are spending lots of money. By following the steps above your chances of success are greatly improved. The one thing you have to consider when choosing your niche is finding products that people need and want when they need to solve a problem. If you can do that success is just around the corner.
Steps to Starting an Internet Business #2: When first starting you probably will not have your own product to sell but that OK because you can join a few affiliate programs and promote their products and make a commission on every sale. But if you do have some products of your own then of course you would promote those.You can find affiliate programs opportunities all over the internet if you do not have your own products.
Steps to starting an Internet Business #3: Gaining insight from your competitors. If you haven't already noticed, (and this step applies if you want to go into a competitive niche market) most marketers who are profiting will have something already going well for them. You only need to observe what they are doing to earn well in that market and do a tad better than what they are doing. Its simple but this is not an overnight thing. You will need to improve overtime and measure your results.
Steps to starting an Internet Business #4: Build Your First Website We all have to start somewhere, right? The very first steps to starting an Internet business would be to build your own website. If you have problems in this area you can always hire someone to build it for you. Next you will you will learn how to create blogs, articles, press release, videos and all that cool stuff. You must have the willingness of continually learning new way of marketing and applying it to your own business. This is something you must do on a consistent basis.
Steps to starting an Internet Business #5: Also I suggest you join an auto responder company and add a form to your blog so you can build a mailing list and use this list for future follow ups which will allow you to keep in contact with your list of people and position yourself to be able to sell to them again and again.
PS: The nice thing about these five steps to starting an internet business is that they are not hard to do once you start learning how it works and anyone can do this if they really want to succeed.
Hi I've been an internet marketer for the last 3 years and doing very well in the last 6 months and I would have to say it is because of Lisa Diane one of the most respected internet marketers and my mentor. When I first met Lisa she told me I needed to listen to a special CD that would help me with my business and life in general. Lisa has dedicated her life to help people like you and me and since listening to that CD my life and business have completely changed around. Lisa and I are now giving away that same CD to try and help as many people as possible and to give you an opportunity you will not believe.
by Marc Martin
How to Have a Second Income Without Getting a Second Job
These days the rising costs for everything from housing, fuel, and food have become a fact of life and many of us are considering taking a second job in order to make ends meet. The costs for gasoline and diesel have reached new highs lately and this has driven up the price for just about everything else. Higher fuel costs mean higher transportation costs and these costs are passed on to you each time you make a purchase.
Many families today are feeling this pinch and are looking for ways to effectively deal with rising prices. Rising unemployment is an added concern. This can be a particularly devastating to those workers laid off especially if you are the primary bread winner in your family. With over 463,000 layoffs in the US alone so far this year, an ever increasing number of us would be glad to have any job at all.
The double whammy of rising costs and a sluggish economy has put many of us in a financial bind.
Getting a second job may be an option for some to get out of their personal financial tight spot but not everyone is in a position to take on a second job. Single parents are especially hard hit because the cost of providing care for their children while they are at work many times cuts too deeply into their paycheck to make taking a second job worthwhile.
Some would say that you could always start your own business. This may be true but starting a business takes a great deal of time and usually a considerable amount of money and there is still no guarantee that the business will survive let alone become profitable. Besides, you need money right now, not three of four years from now or whenever your new business happens to become profitable.
Several options are commonly considered. One such option is to seek a pay raise at your existing job. This option can work if you have positioned yourself at your current workplace as having earned a raise and your company is in a financial position to grant your request. Not all companies have the financial resources to offer pay raises due to the tightening economy in general. As a matter of fact, an increasing number of companies are actually reducing their workforces and laying off workers.
Another option commonly pursued is to take a second job in hopes of gaining ground in the face of rising prices. This option can work if you have the time and energy to follow through with this plan. Naturally, you would need to locate an employer able to offer you gainful employment. In our presently tight economy the pool of such employers looking to hire part time workers is rapidly shrinking.
Taking a second job for a great many workers simply is not possible due to the limitations of time, personal energy, or family obligations. Caring for younger children or older family members takes time and paying for these services many times costs as much or more than what can be earned through a second job.
What is an honest person to do?
Answer: Shift your thinking.
Consider this: Right now, if you have a job chances are you are trading your time and energy for your paycheck. In other words you are trading time for money. In most cases the more hours you work - the more money you have coming in.
But there is a rub.
You only have a fixed number of hours per day to work. You are limited as to the maximum number of hours you have available to trade for money. Especially if you currently working full time.
What I suggest is a shift in the concept of trading time for money.
In other words, what you need is a method to increase your income that does not require you to punch a clock and trade your time for money.
Sound impossible?...
No not at all...
Introducing the world of Automated Forex Trading. Automated what?...
Forex... Forex is short for Foreign Exchange. The buying and selling of international currencies. Forex is no longer just for wealthy capitalists and institutional traders. The days of treating Forex as the exclusive domain of the super rich investor are long gone. Nowadays, anyone with a few hundred dollars and access to a computer can trade Forex.
The real beauty of Forex is that it is the ideal recession proof opportunity.
Let me explain...
Your ability to make money with Forex is independent of the condition of your native country's economy. The reason for this is simple. In Forex, currencies are paired together. If one of the paired currencies goes up in value then naturally the value of opposing pair must go down.
Picture a child's see saw for a moment. When one end of the see saw goes up - the other end of the see saw goes down right? Basically this is what happens in the Forex market.
There is a natural volatility to the Forex market. This volatility coupled with the see saw effect gives rise to the situation where there is always a Bull Market in Forex. What this means to you is that potentially profitable trading opportunities are plentiful. In other words, you can do quite well in Forex trading in spite of the fact that the economy of your native country may be sluggish or in a down turn.
This is great news for thousands of people who would not otherwise have a method for improving their financial lives.
Forex Traders participate in literally the world's largest market. Current estimates are that between 1.5 and 3 Trillion Dollars a day are traded on the Forex. Let me repeat, that's a daily trading volume in the Trillion's. That's Trillions with a "T".
Isn't Trading Forex complicated and difficult?...
If you are trading Forex manually then you will likely need very good technical analysis ability as well as a sound understanding of the economic forces that drive world currency markets. This takes skill and time to develop.
On the other hand, what we're talking about here is using a software program known as an "Expert Advisor" to evaluate trading opportunities and place your trades automatically.
Here's what I'm talking about...
Thanks to recent advancements in computer and trading technology, we now have available what are known as "expert advisors" (EA's for short). In Forex, an expert advisor is a software program that runs inside your trading platform. A well designed EA looks for a predetermined set of market conditions. When those market conditions are met, the EA places trades Automatically. Once the trade is placed, the software then waits for a selected profit point to be reached then closes the trade. This process is repeated over and over endlessly unless, of course, you tell the software to stop.
What this means to you is that you can basically set up the software on your computer and let the software trade Forex for you while you do other things. Go off to work, spend time with the family, or just plain goof off.
This is how you can break out of the confines of trading time for money - Trade Forex for Money!
A note of caution: Not all EA's are the same. The ease of use and effectiveness of EA's varies widely and you need to demo trade and/or back test each EA you are considering using before you go live with your own money.
by David R Jaymes
Many families today are feeling this pinch and are looking for ways to effectively deal with rising prices. Rising unemployment is an added concern. This can be a particularly devastating to those workers laid off especially if you are the primary bread winner in your family. With over 463,000 layoffs in the US alone so far this year, an ever increasing number of us would be glad to have any job at all.
The double whammy of rising costs and a sluggish economy has put many of us in a financial bind.
Getting a second job may be an option for some to get out of their personal financial tight spot but not everyone is in a position to take on a second job. Single parents are especially hard hit because the cost of providing care for their children while they are at work many times cuts too deeply into their paycheck to make taking a second job worthwhile.
Some would say that you could always start your own business. This may be true but starting a business takes a great deal of time and usually a considerable amount of money and there is still no guarantee that the business will survive let alone become profitable. Besides, you need money right now, not three of four years from now or whenever your new business happens to become profitable.
Several options are commonly considered. One such option is to seek a pay raise at your existing job. This option can work if you have positioned yourself at your current workplace as having earned a raise and your company is in a financial position to grant your request. Not all companies have the financial resources to offer pay raises due to the tightening economy in general. As a matter of fact, an increasing number of companies are actually reducing their workforces and laying off workers.
Another option commonly pursued is to take a second job in hopes of gaining ground in the face of rising prices. This option can work if you have the time and energy to follow through with this plan. Naturally, you would need to locate an employer able to offer you gainful employment. In our presently tight economy the pool of such employers looking to hire part time workers is rapidly shrinking.
Taking a second job for a great many workers simply is not possible due to the limitations of time, personal energy, or family obligations. Caring for younger children or older family members takes time and paying for these services many times costs as much or more than what can be earned through a second job.
What is an honest person to do?
Answer: Shift your thinking.
Consider this: Right now, if you have a job chances are you are trading your time and energy for your paycheck. In other words you are trading time for money. In most cases the more hours you work - the more money you have coming in.
But there is a rub.
You only have a fixed number of hours per day to work. You are limited as to the maximum number of hours you have available to trade for money. Especially if you currently working full time.
What I suggest is a shift in the concept of trading time for money.
In other words, what you need is a method to increase your income that does not require you to punch a clock and trade your time for money.
Sound impossible?...
No not at all...
Introducing the world of Automated Forex Trading. Automated what?...
Forex... Forex is short for Foreign Exchange. The buying and selling of international currencies. Forex is no longer just for wealthy capitalists and institutional traders. The days of treating Forex as the exclusive domain of the super rich investor are long gone. Nowadays, anyone with a few hundred dollars and access to a computer can trade Forex.
The real beauty of Forex is that it is the ideal recession proof opportunity.
Let me explain...
Your ability to make money with Forex is independent of the condition of your native country's economy. The reason for this is simple. In Forex, currencies are paired together. If one of the paired currencies goes up in value then naturally the value of opposing pair must go down.
Picture a child's see saw for a moment. When one end of the see saw goes up - the other end of the see saw goes down right? Basically this is what happens in the Forex market.
There is a natural volatility to the Forex market. This volatility coupled with the see saw effect gives rise to the situation where there is always a Bull Market in Forex. What this means to you is that potentially profitable trading opportunities are plentiful. In other words, you can do quite well in Forex trading in spite of the fact that the economy of your native country may be sluggish or in a down turn.
This is great news for thousands of people who would not otherwise have a method for improving their financial lives.
Forex Traders participate in literally the world's largest market. Current estimates are that between 1.5 and 3 Trillion Dollars a day are traded on the Forex. Let me repeat, that's a daily trading volume in the Trillion's. That's Trillions with a "T".
Isn't Trading Forex complicated and difficult?...
If you are trading Forex manually then you will likely need very good technical analysis ability as well as a sound understanding of the economic forces that drive world currency markets. This takes skill and time to develop.
On the other hand, what we're talking about here is using a software program known as an "Expert Advisor" to evaluate trading opportunities and place your trades automatically.
Here's what I'm talking about...
Thanks to recent advancements in computer and trading technology, we now have available what are known as "expert advisors" (EA's for short). In Forex, an expert advisor is a software program that runs inside your trading platform. A well designed EA looks for a predetermined set of market conditions. When those market conditions are met, the EA places trades Automatically. Once the trade is placed, the software then waits for a selected profit point to be reached then closes the trade. This process is repeated over and over endlessly unless, of course, you tell the software to stop.
What this means to you is that you can basically set up the software on your computer and let the software trade Forex for you while you do other things. Go off to work, spend time with the family, or just plain goof off.
This is how you can break out of the confines of trading time for money - Trade Forex for Money!
A note of caution: Not all EA's are the same. The ease of use and effectiveness of EA's varies widely and you need to demo trade and/or back test each EA you are considering using before you go live with your own money.
by David R Jaymes
Friday, September 5, 2008
7 tipe pria payah
Type type pria yang tidak bisa diandalkan !!
~ PASIF
Ciri: Tak pernah mau ambil keputusan atau inisiatif.
Segala sesuatu diserahkan kepada pasangan atau temannya.
Konsekuensi: Anda harus siap jadi nahkoda dan punya banyak ide yang selalu mengarahkan apa pun untuk keperluan bersama.
Solusi: Telusuri penyebabnya, bisa jadi karena tak mau dianggap terlalu dominan. Bila itu karakternya, jangan bosan membangkitkan keinginannya untuk ikut mengambil keputusan. Seringlah bertanya apa keinginannya. Langkah drastisnya, Anda jadi pasif juga, dan lihat reaksinya apakah dia membiarkan saja, atau mulai melempar ide.
Cara kabur/ putus: Katakan Anda capek jadi pihak yang selalu aktif, dan kalau tak mau berubah akan Anda tinggalkan.
~ TERLALU MEMUJA
Ciri: Selalu membanggakan Anda di depan keluarga dan teman-teman. Anda dilimpahi pujian.
Konsekuensi: Anda tak pernah dewasa bersama pria tipe ini, karena tak pernah menunjukkan kekurangan Anda. Di matanya, Anda paling benar. Padahal perempuan juga punya salah dan khilaf, dan perlu sesekali diingatkan agar bisa memperbaiki diri.
Solusi: Bila Anda bosan dianggap dewa, jangan segan-segan memperlihatkan sisi buruk Anda. Berpakaian buruk, misalnya. Namun jangan sampai menyakiti orang lain.
Cara kabur/putus: Katakan padanya Anda risih dipuji terus. Dan bila sikapnya tidak berubah juga, lebih baik pisah.
~ TAK BERADAT
Ciri: Sering melabrak norma kesopanan atau etika yang berlaku. Misalnya, cara makannya berantakan, meludah sembarangan, atau mengorek gigi dengan kuku.
Konsekuensi: Anda akan sering dipermalukan di depan teman dan keluarga dengan sikapnya. Orangtua bisa mencoretnya dari daftar sebagai calon menantu.
Solusi: Bilang terus terang padanya bahwa kelakuannya membuat Anda malu. Ajari dia etika yang benar, jangan pernah bosan mengingatkannya, dan memberinya contoh.
Cara kabur/putus: Agaknya tipe ini masih bisa diperbaiki. Kalau dia bisa berubah, mengapa harus putus?
~ KASAR
Ciri: Ada pria kasar hanya di ucapan saja, yaitu sering mengeluarkan kata makian yang bikin panas kuping. Ada pula yang kasar sampai pada perbuatan, sering memukul dan menyakiti.
Konsekuensi: Keduanya sama-sama berdampak buruk pada perempuan. Ucapan kasar kadang sama sakitnya dengan pukulan. Bila tak siap menghadapinya, lama-lama Anda kehilangan rasa percaya diri. Bila Anda melawan, akan menimbulkan pertengkaran terus.
Solusi: Bila mengaku terus terang bahwa Anda takut dan sakit hati dengan ucapannya, ia mungkin agak menahan diri. Namun perbuatan kasar agaknya sulit diubah. Tipe kasar yang sering memukul biasanya akan muncul lagi.
Cara kabur/putus: Tak ada toleransi, segera menjauh darinya. Apalagi bila kasarnya sudah membekas di tubuh Anda.
~ CENGENG
Ciri: Tak tahan banting. Diajak jalan sedikit sudah mengeluh capek. Dikritik sedikit sudah cemberut. Apa-apa mau dilayani. Wah, pokoknya manja dan tidak tough!
Konsekuensi: Tak bisa diandalkan untuk urusan yang membutuhkan tenaga, apalagi tanggung jawab besar. Ia seperti anak kecil, mesti diurusi terus. Kalau mau meneruskan hubungan dengannya, siap-siap jadi wonder woman. Jadi perisainya untuk menghadapi dunia yang kejam.
Solusi: Beri dia hadiah berlibur yang mengandung unsur olahraga, misalnya rafting atau naik gunung. Kalau perlu masukkan ke kursus bela diri biar belajar bagaimana caranya menjadi pria tangguh.
Cara kabur/putus: Sebagai tanda putus, kirimkan dia bingkisan berisi pakaian dalam perempuan.
~ ADDICT
Ciri: Ada yang ringan seperti pecandu games, tren fashion, atau koleksi mainan. Perhatiannya pada benda atau kebiasaan sudah melewati batas wajar. Misal, rela mengeluarkan kocek jutaan rupiah. Yang berat adalah pecandu minuman keras dan narkoba.
Konsekuensi: Perhatiannya pada pasangan akan teralihkan. Lebih berbahaya, bila kecanduan alkohol atau drugs, hidup bakal hancur bahkan nyawa bisa melayang.
Solusi: Bila pasangan hanya kecanduan benda-benda koleksi atau games, ingatkan dia untuk juga memerhatikan Anda. Namun, bila pasangan kecanduan alkohol atau drugs, segera cari pertolongan.
Cara kabur/putus: Bila sekadar addict pada benda koleksi atau permainan, masih bisa dibujuk untuk memerhatikan Anda. Tapi kalau sudah narkoba atau alkohol, keraskan hati untuk segera meninggalkannya, kecuali Anda siap jadi perawatnya seumur hidup. Belum lagi risiko ikut jadi pecandu.
~ AUTIS
Ciri: Seperti penderita autis, jenis lelaki ini asyik dengan dunianya sendiri, sampai lupa bahwa dia punya teman, bahkan pacar. Biasanya, para peneliti atau ilmuwan termasuk jenis lelaki ini.
Konsekuensi: Jenis pria ini biasanya jarang ngomong. Jadi Anda mesti pandai membaca pikirannya. Karena perhatiannya pada dunia luar sangat kecil, Anda lah yang jadi perantara.
Solusi: Ajak dia bicara terus tentang hal-hal di luar yang mengasyikkan. Sering-seringlah mengajaknya jalan-jalan.
Cara kabur/putus: Bila putus pun dijamin dia tak akan peduli. Jadi buat apa capek-capek membuat prolog panjang? Langsung saja katakan putus.
~ PASIF
Ciri: Tak pernah mau ambil keputusan atau inisiatif.
Segala sesuatu diserahkan kepada pasangan atau temannya.
Konsekuensi: Anda harus siap jadi nahkoda dan punya banyak ide yang selalu mengarahkan apa pun untuk keperluan bersama.
Solusi: Telusuri penyebabnya, bisa jadi karena tak mau dianggap terlalu dominan. Bila itu karakternya, jangan bosan membangkitkan keinginannya untuk ikut mengambil keputusan. Seringlah bertanya apa keinginannya. Langkah drastisnya, Anda jadi pasif juga, dan lihat reaksinya apakah dia membiarkan saja, atau mulai melempar ide.
Cara kabur/ putus: Katakan Anda capek jadi pihak yang selalu aktif, dan kalau tak mau berubah akan Anda tinggalkan.
~ TERLALU MEMUJA
Ciri: Selalu membanggakan Anda di depan keluarga dan teman-teman. Anda dilimpahi pujian.
Konsekuensi: Anda tak pernah dewasa bersama pria tipe ini, karena tak pernah menunjukkan kekurangan Anda. Di matanya, Anda paling benar. Padahal perempuan juga punya salah dan khilaf, dan perlu sesekali diingatkan agar bisa memperbaiki diri.
Solusi: Bila Anda bosan dianggap dewa, jangan segan-segan memperlihatkan sisi buruk Anda. Berpakaian buruk, misalnya. Namun jangan sampai menyakiti orang lain.
Cara kabur/putus: Katakan padanya Anda risih dipuji terus. Dan bila sikapnya tidak berubah juga, lebih baik pisah.
~ TAK BERADAT
Ciri: Sering melabrak norma kesopanan atau etika yang berlaku. Misalnya, cara makannya berantakan, meludah sembarangan, atau mengorek gigi dengan kuku.
Konsekuensi: Anda akan sering dipermalukan di depan teman dan keluarga dengan sikapnya. Orangtua bisa mencoretnya dari daftar sebagai calon menantu.
Solusi: Bilang terus terang padanya bahwa kelakuannya membuat Anda malu. Ajari dia etika yang benar, jangan pernah bosan mengingatkannya, dan memberinya contoh.
Cara kabur/putus: Agaknya tipe ini masih bisa diperbaiki. Kalau dia bisa berubah, mengapa harus putus?
~ KASAR
Ciri: Ada pria kasar hanya di ucapan saja, yaitu sering mengeluarkan kata makian yang bikin panas kuping. Ada pula yang kasar sampai pada perbuatan, sering memukul dan menyakiti.
Konsekuensi: Keduanya sama-sama berdampak buruk pada perempuan. Ucapan kasar kadang sama sakitnya dengan pukulan. Bila tak siap menghadapinya, lama-lama Anda kehilangan rasa percaya diri. Bila Anda melawan, akan menimbulkan pertengkaran terus.
Solusi: Bila mengaku terus terang bahwa Anda takut dan sakit hati dengan ucapannya, ia mungkin agak menahan diri. Namun perbuatan kasar agaknya sulit diubah. Tipe kasar yang sering memukul biasanya akan muncul lagi.
Cara kabur/putus: Tak ada toleransi, segera menjauh darinya. Apalagi bila kasarnya sudah membekas di tubuh Anda.
~ CENGENG
Ciri: Tak tahan banting. Diajak jalan sedikit sudah mengeluh capek. Dikritik sedikit sudah cemberut. Apa-apa mau dilayani. Wah, pokoknya manja dan tidak tough!
Konsekuensi: Tak bisa diandalkan untuk urusan yang membutuhkan tenaga, apalagi tanggung jawab besar. Ia seperti anak kecil, mesti diurusi terus. Kalau mau meneruskan hubungan dengannya, siap-siap jadi wonder woman. Jadi perisainya untuk menghadapi dunia yang kejam.
Solusi: Beri dia hadiah berlibur yang mengandung unsur olahraga, misalnya rafting atau naik gunung. Kalau perlu masukkan ke kursus bela diri biar belajar bagaimana caranya menjadi pria tangguh.
Cara kabur/putus: Sebagai tanda putus, kirimkan dia bingkisan berisi pakaian dalam perempuan.
~ ADDICT
Ciri: Ada yang ringan seperti pecandu games, tren fashion, atau koleksi mainan. Perhatiannya pada benda atau kebiasaan sudah melewati batas wajar. Misal, rela mengeluarkan kocek jutaan rupiah. Yang berat adalah pecandu minuman keras dan narkoba.
Konsekuensi: Perhatiannya pada pasangan akan teralihkan. Lebih berbahaya, bila kecanduan alkohol atau drugs, hidup bakal hancur bahkan nyawa bisa melayang.
Solusi: Bila pasangan hanya kecanduan benda-benda koleksi atau games, ingatkan dia untuk juga memerhatikan Anda. Namun, bila pasangan kecanduan alkohol atau drugs, segera cari pertolongan.
Cara kabur/putus: Bila sekadar addict pada benda koleksi atau permainan, masih bisa dibujuk untuk memerhatikan Anda. Tapi kalau sudah narkoba atau alkohol, keraskan hati untuk segera meninggalkannya, kecuali Anda siap jadi perawatnya seumur hidup. Belum lagi risiko ikut jadi pecandu.
~ AUTIS
Ciri: Seperti penderita autis, jenis lelaki ini asyik dengan dunianya sendiri, sampai lupa bahwa dia punya teman, bahkan pacar. Biasanya, para peneliti atau ilmuwan termasuk jenis lelaki ini.
Konsekuensi: Jenis pria ini biasanya jarang ngomong. Jadi Anda mesti pandai membaca pikirannya. Karena perhatiannya pada dunia luar sangat kecil, Anda lah yang jadi perantara.
Solusi: Ajak dia bicara terus tentang hal-hal di luar yang mengasyikkan. Sering-seringlah mengajaknya jalan-jalan.
Cara kabur/putus: Bila putus pun dijamin dia tak akan peduli. Jadi buat apa capek-capek membuat prolog panjang? Langsung saja katakan putus.
diakah cinta sejati mu !!
Anda sudah bosan berakhir pada cinta yang salah.
Alih-alih mengharap cinta sejati, yang didapat malah cinta sehari.
Sebelum memutuskan menerima cinta seseorang, perhatikan tanda-tandanya,
apakah dia memang soulmate Anda? Ini dia tandanya.
1. Ia Sahabat Terbaik Anda
Saat sedang mengalami kesulitan yang pertama kali terlintas di kepala Anda adalah dirinya.
Ia pandai menenangkan hati Anda.
Begitupun ketika bahagia, Anda tahu pada siapa kebahagiaan itu akan dibagi.
Ia selalu hadir untuk Anda dalam situasi apa pun.
Tak ada orang yang lebih baik mengisi peran ini daripada pasangan Anda.
Percayalah pasangan yang berjodoh pasti tak takut mengalami pasang surut hidup.
2. Punya Banyak Kesamaan
Hasil penelitian mengungkapkan,
pernikahan yang paling stabil adalah pernikahan yang melibatkan dua orang dengan banyak kesamaan.
Tidak terlalu penting jenis kesamaannya apa, tapi semua itu merupakan modal untuk langgengnya hubungan.
Rahasia pasangan sejati adalah, manakala Anda berdua selalu bisa menikmati bersama semua aspek kehidupan. Tidak butuh orang lain untuk membuat kalian bahagia.
Apakah Anda sudah merasakannya? Jika ya, jangan lepaskan dia.
3. Kepentingan Anda adalah Segalanya
“Cinta dimulai ketika seseorang menemukan bahwa kebutuhan orang lain sama pentingnya dengan kebutuhannya sendiri.” (Harry Stack Sullivan).
Dari bahasa tubuh dan sikapnya selama ini, terlihat jelas, dia memperlakukan Anda sebagai orang terpenting dalam hidupnya, bahkan seringkali dia mementingkan kebutuhan Anda ketimbang dirinya.
Bila dia punya potensi itu, mungkin dia yang Anda cari.
Karena cinta abadi melibatkan komitmen rela berkorban untuk kebahagiaan pasangan.
4. Cinta tak Beryarat
Coba ingat-ingat, apakah ia pernah cemberut saat Anda memakai baju yang tak sesuai seleranya?
Anda pernah dicueki, ketika Anda memotong rambut tanpa sepengetahuannya?
Bila ya, sebaiknya pikir-pikir lagi untuk memilih dia jadi kekasih.
Padahal, cinta sejati adalah cinta yang tak bersyarat, mampu menerima pasangan apa adanya.
5. Mau Mendengarkan
Setiap Anda berbicara padanya, tak sedetik pun perhatiannya beralih.
Ia pendengar yang baik, bisa mendengarkan Anda bicara berjam-jam lamanya tanpa rasa bosan, penuh perhatian dan mengerti apa yang Anda diinginkan.
Sehingga Anda tak perlu mengulang kalimat yang sama berkali-kali dan mengatakan,
”Kamu ngerti enggak sih, apa yang saya bicarakan tadi?”
6. Always On Time
Untuk urusan apa pun, dia selalu berusaha untuk tepat waktu.
Janji bertemu jam tujuh malam, dia sudah tiba di tempat setengah jam sebelumnya.
Baginya, lebih baik dia yang lumutan, daripada membiarkan Anda menunggu.
Apalagi jika meeting pointnya dirasa tidak familiar dengan Anda.
7. Kontak Batin
Tanpa diucapkan, kalian bisa saling tahu cuaca hati masing-masing.
Meski bukan paranormal, kalian seperti bisa saling membaca pikiran dan menduga reaksi,
serta perasaan pasangan pada situasi dan kondisi tertentu.
Bila Anda sudah merasakan hal tersebut terhadapnya,
selamat! Mungkin dialah belahan jiwa Anda.
Alih-alih mengharap cinta sejati, yang didapat malah cinta sehari.
Sebelum memutuskan menerima cinta seseorang, perhatikan tanda-tandanya,
apakah dia memang soulmate Anda? Ini dia tandanya.
1. Ia Sahabat Terbaik Anda
Saat sedang mengalami kesulitan yang pertama kali terlintas di kepala Anda adalah dirinya.
Ia pandai menenangkan hati Anda.
Begitupun ketika bahagia, Anda tahu pada siapa kebahagiaan itu akan dibagi.
Ia selalu hadir untuk Anda dalam situasi apa pun.
Tak ada orang yang lebih baik mengisi peran ini daripada pasangan Anda.
Percayalah pasangan yang berjodoh pasti tak takut mengalami pasang surut hidup.
2. Punya Banyak Kesamaan
Hasil penelitian mengungkapkan,
pernikahan yang paling stabil adalah pernikahan yang melibatkan dua orang dengan banyak kesamaan.
Tidak terlalu penting jenis kesamaannya apa, tapi semua itu merupakan modal untuk langgengnya hubungan.
Rahasia pasangan sejati adalah, manakala Anda berdua selalu bisa menikmati bersama semua aspek kehidupan. Tidak butuh orang lain untuk membuat kalian bahagia.
Apakah Anda sudah merasakannya? Jika ya, jangan lepaskan dia.
3. Kepentingan Anda adalah Segalanya
“Cinta dimulai ketika seseorang menemukan bahwa kebutuhan orang lain sama pentingnya dengan kebutuhannya sendiri.” (Harry Stack Sullivan).
Dari bahasa tubuh dan sikapnya selama ini, terlihat jelas, dia memperlakukan Anda sebagai orang terpenting dalam hidupnya, bahkan seringkali dia mementingkan kebutuhan Anda ketimbang dirinya.
Bila dia punya potensi itu, mungkin dia yang Anda cari.
Karena cinta abadi melibatkan komitmen rela berkorban untuk kebahagiaan pasangan.
4. Cinta tak Beryarat
Coba ingat-ingat, apakah ia pernah cemberut saat Anda memakai baju yang tak sesuai seleranya?
Anda pernah dicueki, ketika Anda memotong rambut tanpa sepengetahuannya?
Bila ya, sebaiknya pikir-pikir lagi untuk memilih dia jadi kekasih.
Padahal, cinta sejati adalah cinta yang tak bersyarat, mampu menerima pasangan apa adanya.
5. Mau Mendengarkan
Setiap Anda berbicara padanya, tak sedetik pun perhatiannya beralih.
Ia pendengar yang baik, bisa mendengarkan Anda bicara berjam-jam lamanya tanpa rasa bosan, penuh perhatian dan mengerti apa yang Anda diinginkan.
Sehingga Anda tak perlu mengulang kalimat yang sama berkali-kali dan mengatakan,
”Kamu ngerti enggak sih, apa yang saya bicarakan tadi?”
6. Always On Time
Untuk urusan apa pun, dia selalu berusaha untuk tepat waktu.
Janji bertemu jam tujuh malam, dia sudah tiba di tempat setengah jam sebelumnya.
Baginya, lebih baik dia yang lumutan, daripada membiarkan Anda menunggu.
Apalagi jika meeting pointnya dirasa tidak familiar dengan Anda.
7. Kontak Batin
Tanpa diucapkan, kalian bisa saling tahu cuaca hati masing-masing.
Meski bukan paranormal, kalian seperti bisa saling membaca pikiran dan menduga reaksi,
serta perasaan pasangan pada situasi dan kondisi tertentu.
Bila Anda sudah merasakan hal tersebut terhadapnya,
selamat! Mungkin dialah belahan jiwa Anda.
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